Real ethical weddings

Becci and Daniel

Daniel and Becci

The couple: Daniel and Becci
Wedding date: 19 June 2004
Venue and location: St Peter ad Vincula, Wisborough Green, West Sussex, then home for a village shindig!

What inspired you to have an ethical wedding?

I always wanted to organise my wedding myself, and it just seemed natural to re-use and recycle as much stuff as possible!

I managed to get Tesco's Christmas decorations after they had taken them down, so we used them to decorate the marquee, and I scoured boot sales for months for glass trifle dishes which we filled with floating candles and flowers.

I made glass stars from old greenhouse glass for all the guests, and after the wedding, I flattened all the champagne bottles in my kiln and made them into cheese platters.

All the invitations were home-made, the catering was done by my mother-in-law and an old lady I knew made the most fantastic looking cake, decorated with old silk flowers and even poppy seed heads painted pink with nail varnish!

Fishers Farm Park very kindly provided us with a shirehorse and antique hay wagon to bring us back from the church which was just amazing, and rather than buy lots of games and entertainment the village sideshow society lent us the coconut shy, while the Bat and Ball pub also let us use their old fashioned skittle alley.

What was the most fun bit of organising an ethical wedding?
I loved every minute of it and I'd do it all again tomorrow if I could! Decorating the marquee and garden took three days but we had such a lovely time.

How did it go on the day?

Marquee recycled decorations
It was just the best day of my life, and three years on people are still talking about it and saying it was the best wedding they'd ever been to!

What would be your top tips for brides and grooms planning an ethical wedding?

  • Beg and borrow as much stuff as you can!
  • Make all your own invitations and bits and pieces; guests much prefer home-made things and it'll save you a fortune.
  • Make sure you have a bottle of champagne hidden somewhere, and go off on your own for twenty minutes together, otherwise you won't see each other all evening, (you'll be so busy with your guests).
  • Decorating the marquee takes twice as long as you think it will, likewise blowing up balloons!