Real ethical weddings
Alex and Mick
The couple: Mick & Alex
Wedding date: August 2005
Venue and location: Family Farm, Staffordshire
What inspired you to have an ethical wedding?
We didn’t set out to have an 'ethical' wedding.
What we wanted was an informal day of celebrations, with as much participation from family and friends as possible.
Having recently returned from three years working in a developing country we particularly baulked at the cost of an average wedding in this country and wanted to avoid a day dictated by the ‘wedding industry’, littered with unnecessary ’stuff’!
What was the most difficult part about organising this type of wedding?
Being different from the ‘norm’ was a little difficult at times, especially if our ideas were met with unenthusiastic responses.
What was the most fun bit?
Including family and friends in the preparations as it means we have lots of good memories of the run up to the day as well as the day itself.
How did it go on the day?
I didn’t want the day to end – but all brides probably say that!
Actually, we managed to make the day last ‘til 4 in the morning, sitting on straw bales, around a campfire, with guitars and some homebrew, which was lovely.
Also many of our guests camped at the farm so we were able to be with them the next day too - one day is too short to talk with everyone at the wedding properly!
What would be your 5 top tips for brides and grooms planning an ethical wedding?
1. Decide what you want for the day and try not to get swayed by others (especially the ‘wedding industry’) - keep asking yourselves ‘why have I decided to do this?!’ (is it because you want to or because tradition ‘expects’ it from us?)
2. Involve as many friends and family members as possible in the preparations (not just the activities on the day itself)
3. Surprise yourself as to what can be done by yourself or with friends and family (grow, make, cook your own!)
4. Keep it simple: You don’t have to spend the earth to have a wonderful celebration - celebrating with family and friends is more important than ’stuff’ and how things look!
5. Grow your own flowers, or better still plants in decorative pots so that you can enjoy them for long after the wedding as well!
6. Wearing trainers (soft pink to match my dress which was oyster pink) was the best decision!